Well, I’m just back from my 35 week scan and I’m very pleased to report that all is well 
Baby is in a really awkward position…….bottom first ……so this explains why my baby is being so mean to me and literally kicking me in the groin.
Babs weighs nearly 5 lbs and doc has confirmed a date for my section, which I’m keeping a secret for now (ha ha)…. and after a lot of thought and discussion, we have also confirmed that I will be having my tubes tied while I’m on the table !!!
And, while I know this decision is the best for us (medically and financially) I’m a little bit sad that my baby days will well and truly be over after this little bundle arrives.
Its not a decision that has come lightly to us, I mean we never even considered this option initially !
When my doctor asked me at my 12 week scan if we had thought about contraception, I immediately chirped “it’s a bit late don’t you think !!!!!”. He then very calmly informed us that after 3 sections, it really wouldn’t be safe to have another, and that we should give it some serious thought.
So after a lot of talking and thinking and of course some googling, this is the decision we’ve made – I know a lot of people have differing views on the subject, but hand on heart we know this is best for us
And if any of you lovely ladies (and gents of course) have any advice on the subject, its more than welcome !
Hi Sheenagh
Well done for making your decision.
My Gynie advised me not to have my tubes tied, but to have a marina coil fitted, it lasts for 5 or 7 years ?? – I was going to have my tubes tied during my last c – section. She said that because I was 40 and close to menapause (I nearly fainted when she said that!!) that even if I got them tied I could still end up getting a coil, as it eliminates problems with your periods – (I know I’m older than you lol) – and because I had to choose – I did what I always do – NOTHING !!
Yvonne x
On my first visit back to my GP after having Carrie, our last child, my GP asked me if I had thought about what I would use for permanent contraception! I was horrified, I had just given birth to a beautiful daughter and it was such an easy birth (bear in mind it was my 4th!!) and I really did intend having another one! (Yes, I think my hormones were causing some confusion in my mind about exactly what having a 5th child would have meant). I told my GP that I hadn’t really given it any thought and that it wasn’t an issue, upon which he “suggested” that either Aidan or I should deal with it, permanently! So Aidan was packed off to the “Snip Specialist” to find a permanent solution. (I think that he was quite happy to volunteer to have a vasectomy as he was afraid that I really was serious about having a 5th child and he wasn’t taking any chances!). I was happy for him to be the one with his “bits” on the table this time, and yes, it definitely was the right decision because I know I would have easily have had another and it was probably the only way to stop that happening!
Eavan
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Thank you both so much for the words of encouragement. When I re-read this post, I thought about how sure and confident I sounded – but the truth is I’ll still be having doubts on the table !
I’ve been very open about my decision, as I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed of – but reactions have been very mixed, one person actually said i should be ashamed to even think of doing such a thing, that children were gods gifts……well I’m well aware of that. But from a medical point of view my scar wont hold up to another section and financially I’d rather be able to give all my children an equal shot at life !!
You’re right Sheenagh. Too many c-sections cause complications. During my sister’s pregnancy the placenta attached to her scar tissue from a previous emergency c-section (placenta accreta), it was life threatening for her and the baby and as a result she was hospitalised from week 20 untill they delivered the baby 5 weeks early. It was very dangerous and scary. Thankfully her and the baby were fine in the end. Yvonne